It was August, and we had just celebrated our twentieth wedding anniversary three months earlier. From the outside, everything in our life looked positive. His business was doing well, our children were happy in school and outside activities, I was doing well in my own projects. I had a calling I loved at church and…
First, I have to apologize for the hiatus in writing. I think of it often, but I had a child I just sent out on a mission, and that has been consuming my life for the last two months. Finally sent my missionary out, and now I can focus on some of my projects again….
There was this moment when my husband said something so crazy, so bizarre, so nonsensical that I was absolutely sure in that moment that aliens had stolen him and replaced his soul with someone different. Someone that looked just like him, but was clearly insane. Come to think of it, it was more than one…
I have been taking advantage of downtime in the summer to work on projects around the house that have been nagging at me. Tasks that have felt like burdens sitting on my shoulders. I have gotten so much done and so much accomplished. I’m quite proud of myself. I have waded through trash and Goodwill…
There is a great irony that five years ago I would have told you I really knew my husband and we had a good marriage. I’m not kidding. I groan at the memory, and I have to admit I’m a little embarrassed to type that sentence. One of the consequences of dealing with a crisis…
I posted an image today with the following words: “A bird sitting on a tree is never afraid of the branch breaking because her trust is not on the branch but on it’s own wings. Always believe in yourself.” I spent a lot of time trying to find any resource, any help that could help…
A few weeks ago my husband and I ended our therapeutic separation and came back together. Ay yi yi. I am a still somewhat of a mess, but after all this work, I have learned to accept that and be okay with it! I have had therapy/coaching since then, and my intention has been to…
I began this journey with pretty much no resources. Church leadership who meant well but didn’t know how to offer support and met with us individually or together almost never. Mostly terrible experiences with LDS therapy, and thankfully God ended up putting someone in my path who was not of my faith but was aware…
It is an absolute positive if your spouse chooses to repent and clean up their life. I remember on the night my husband was excommunicated (man, it’s still hard to type that), I kneeled on my son’s bedroom floor sorting his clothing he had grown out of. That week I did everything I could to…
Last night was a really really bad night. What made it more difficult is that I’ve had two GREAT weeks, which perhaps gave me a false sense of security. Weeks where I felt happy all through my being, was engaged with a lot of positive self-talk, busy and productive days, and I felt that light…
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Jane
